When we first fall in love with that special someone, we want to spend all of our time together. In fact, we seem to feel better when we are with our significant other. This is the infatuation stage, and admittedly, it feels really good. But enduring relationships move past this stage and into a […]
How to Tell When You’re Feeling Burned Out
Many people think of burnout as simply being incredibly tired after a long week or month of work or school studies. But burnout is much more than a physical exhaustion; it has in fact been called the “triad of depersonalization, emotional exhaustion, and feelings of detachment.” Here are some additional signs of burnout: […]
Can EMDR Therapy be Done Online?
When the pandemic hit, many people began to work with their therapists online. But there were many skeptics who did not believe the benefits of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, also known as EMDR therapy, which is traditionally a hands-on therapy, could translate to online platforms. But as the pandemic unfolded and more and […]
Couples: How to Regulate Yourself During Difficult Conversations
Sharing your life with someone means having open and honest conversations, even when those conversations are a bit difficult. But that’s easier said than done. During hard conversations, it’s common for many people to become triggered by something their partner has said. Calm one moment, but the next they’re thrown into “fight or flight” […]
Choosing Love as Your Compass
We all get stuck at times in knowing what the “next best step” is in a moment. Sometimes we get stuck because of fear or anxiety, sometimes because of anger, sometimes because just feel lost. We can be faced with a decision and feel like we do not know what path to take, which can […]
Learning the Gifts in Saying “No”
When I think about how we generally raise children and were, generally, in this society raised as children ourselves, I reflect on the message we learn as children about saying “no” and the message we give to children about saying “no”. I see the ramifications of our messages to children reflected in my own life and […]
The Relational Impact of Anxiety
When we think of the impact of anxiety, we can easily think of what anxiety does to someone on an individual level…it causes us to worry, be afraid, be less happy or enjoy less. However, we can forget to think about the impact of our anxiety in a relationship, and, in doing so, can give […]
The Impact of Self-Perception Within a Relationship
Have you ever found yourself in an argument with your partner about something that seems trivial, on the surface, but does not feel trivial? Perhaps it starts as a discussion over how you keep the house clean or who is cooking dinner tonight, but what starts as a discussion escalates into an argument. Without some […]
Letting Anxiety Be Your Guide Toward Your Values
Anxiety visits us with different messages. Sometimes, the message is none at all as anxiety is just passing through and trying to get us to go with it on a journey to nowhere. These are the times where it is helpful to acknowledge its presence but not give it too much importance. Other times, anxiety […]
The Map to a Loving Relationship
Imagine getting dropped off in a foreign country with no map and no ability to speak the language of the residents and told that you need to get to a certain destination in order to get picked up and back home. What would you do? You might rely on past experiences that felt similar, things […]