We all get stuck at times in knowing what the “next best step” is in a moment. Sometimes we get stuck because of fear or anxiety, sometimes because of anger, sometimes because just feel lost. We can be faced with a decision and feel like we do not know what path to take, which can […]
Learning the Gifts in Saying “No”
When I think about how we generally raise children and were, generally, in this society raised as children ourselves, I reflect on the message we learn as children about saying “no” and the message we give to children about saying “no”. I see the ramifications of our messages to children reflected in my own life and […]
The Relational Impact of Anxiety
When we think of the impact of anxiety, we can easily think of what anxiety does to someone on an individual level…it causes us to worry, be afraid, be less happy or enjoy less. However, we can forget to think about the impact of our anxiety in a relationship, and, in doing so, can give […]
The Impact of Self-Perception Within a Relationship
Have you ever found yourself in an argument with your partner about something that seems trivial, on the surface, but does not feel trivial? Perhaps it starts as a discussion over how you keep the house clean or who is cooking dinner tonight, but what starts as a discussion escalates into an argument. Without some […]
Letting Anxiety Be Your Guide Toward Your Values
Anxiety visits us with different messages. Sometimes, the message is none at all as anxiety is just passing through and trying to get us to go with it on a journey to nowhere. These are the times where it is helpful to acknowledge its presence but not give it too much importance. Other times, anxiety […]
The Map to a Loving Relationship
Imagine getting dropped off in a foreign country with no map and no ability to speak the language of the residents and told that you need to get to a certain destination in order to get picked up and back home. What would you do? You might rely on past experiences that felt similar, things […]
The Courage of Imperfection
As we end another calendar year, it is common to reflect back on the year thinking of all the highlights and pitfalls and then turn to thinking about how we want to make next year better. We tend to imagine what life would look like, better, in the New Year. If we just acquired that […]